Resentment Only Hurts YOU



Have you ever held a resentment against someone-a client, partner, coworker, referral partner, business, government or friend? Every time they call, text or email you, that feeling comes welling up inside of you and the memory of what they did to you comes rushing to the surface. 

In some cases it can wreck your whole day. Sometimes your whole week. Sometimes years.

For example, a client that you worked really hard to get approved decides at the last minute to go to their bank, even though they promised they wouldn't. A business screwed you over and wouldn't offer a refund. You find out a trusted referral partner referred your client to another mortgage broker. Or, your co-worker or staff member made some big mistakes that lost you a file.

Sound familiar?

At the root of resentment is usually pain. This person said something that really hurt you. They broke your trust. They betrayed you. They do your job better than you and it frustrates you.

Whatever the reason, your values and your self worth have been challenged and it's easier to be angry at them instead of looking inward at yourself.

Here is the thing though-holding a resentment only hurts you. It only hampers your growth. It only keeps you stuck in the past. 

Let it go. Learn from it. Forgive the person and move on. Remember, forgiveness does not mean you need to all of a sudden become besties with this person or excuse bad behaviour. It just means that they no longer get to rent space for free in your head or your heart.

Stop drinking the poison.

Is there someone, a situation or a business that you are holding a resentment towards? Choose to release that today.

Have the best week!